Overscheduling your Kindergartner

Today I looked into extracurricular activities for Xander. He is already in the afterschool program, and now I have the option to sign him up for some extracurriculars. I have plenty of choices, but how much is too much? There is art, which I think he would really love, soccer (he's already doing our local PAL league anyway and this would give him another opportunity to practice) and dance. The challenge with dance is that it is on Friday, the same day as his PAL league soccer practice... and he is already dead tired from a week at school...

At the same time he has told us he doesn't love the afterschool program. And honestly I'm not sure how I feel about it either. When I pick him up I see all of the kindergartners playing video games or watching movies. I know it is the end of the day, and that the program does other activities other than putting the kindergartners in front of the TV ... but this is the impression I get at 5:30 pm.  We come from a daycare without a TV, so it does bothers me that this happens in an afterschool program.

Jonathan and I are just starting to comprehend the concept of over-scheduling. We did overcommit this summer. We had the boys signed up for skating on Saturday and swimming on Sunday-- and we lost our weekends. We learned our lesson, and going forward we know the most we can support is one weekend activity... but how much can he handle during the week?

We're just in kindergarten and I'm already debating how much I want to sign him up for. Imagine what life will be like when he is more self directed -- telling us what he wants to participate in. I definitely don't want to overschedule him, at the same time I don't want him to miss out.